So, we made it through the first trimester. Things are looking good. Obviously there is still a long way to go, but beyond the very few friends we have already told we want to start sharing the news more widely.
We decided to tell our families at 14 weeks, after the 4th scan so we could be fairly sure things were still progressing well at that point (they were).
Happily Mothers Day in the UK fell a couple of days after that scan so we were able to tell family on the phone at that point. Due to COVID its unlikely we will see anyone before the baby comes, or potentially even for a while after it arrives which is really sad.
Family are thrilled, as, like us, they’d started to think this probably wasn’t going to happen.
Next are colleagues and friends a couple of weeks or so later. Most of my colleagues find out through a company meeting when I have to explain what my department does in the form of a rhyme and the last slide is a pregnancy announcement. Still online though.
DH manages to see his key colleagues in person to tell them, provoking tears (that could just have been at his fashion sense though, who knows…?)
So when to make the news even more public? Even though ‘announcing on social media’ isn’t necessary, there are a lot of people who know that we’ve been trying since 2014 and some often ask us how its going and we don’t like to continue to lie. We decide from 24 weeks – when the foetus hits viability for life outside the womb (as in, the hospital will resuscitate etc which it won’t do at 23wks 6days) would be the best.
Then something amazing happens (sidenote – for me this is amazing, for many this will just be a wtf are you talking about woman).
A friend who had Eurovision tickets for the cancelled 2020 show in the Netherlands asks us if we would like to go if she can get tickets this year. HELL YES. We’ve tried a few times and had no luck, but this time its in the Netherlands with a really limited audience so maybe this is the time we finally get lucky!
And we do. We get tickets for Semi-Final 2 and the Grand Final.
Semi-Final 2 is the same day as we hit 24 weeks so we decide to make the announcement with a photo from the venue at the same time on Facebook (yes, we’re old)
I do feel I need to explain the photo by saying I am pregnant rather than just fat from a hard lock-down… maybe its more obvious to others, but at this point I am still feeling more fat than pregnant!
In other news, both Eurovision evenings were awesome, and totally seated so perfect for someone 6 months pregnant…